Thursday, December 4, 2014
You look great for...
This is Jada Pinkett Smith's mom. Her name is Adrienne Banfield-Jones and she is 61 years old.
I can just hear some of you saying, "She looks great FOR HER AGE."
Stop! (First of all, look at her. Most of us could only dream).
I can't really blame you. When I was younger, I thought this was a compliment too. But now that I'm getting (ahem) to the age where people might conceivably say this to me, I don't see it that way. To me it sounds like, "Wow, if you were 25 you'd look like an old bag, but compared to the other hags your age, you look pretty good."
#Sensitive? Maybe. But what is a certain age supposed to look like/act like/exercise like? I'm in better shape than a lot of the people in their 20s I see at the gym and even work alongside sometimes. Now more than ever, I see people of all ages running marathons, climbing mountains, and fighting fire. I also see people of all ages who have simply given up. What does "for your age" really mean?
So next time, do a favor to me and to the other older gals still out there hiking and trail running and fighting fire and looking great doing it. Say, "You look great!" and stop right there. That's a real compliment. Remember, you'll be here someday too, if you're lucky!