Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Age: The final frontier

My former employee asked me when I had worked at a particular park.  When I said, "1991," his response was "Oh wow, I was one year old."

I was immediately annoyed.   "Wow?"  Was this necessary? Pointing out how young you are (or how old someone else is) doesn't seem to have a purpose to me.  This made me think a little more about one of my pet peeves.

Maybe I'm a little sensitive about this because I'm not a young person anymore, but it seems to me that, in a society where it is not okay to remark on someone's weight, mental ability, ethnicity and a host of other things, it is still acceptable to put someone down or describe them using their age when it has no point in the story.

Recently someone in one of my Facebook groups asked about getting into personal training after a career change.  He stated that he had worked in the corporate world for 21 years, and then added, "I know, I'm old." We do this to ourselves! I've been guilty of this myself: why do we do this?  Why do we discount ourselves?  And why do we use "older" or "elderly" to describe someone if it doesn't further the narrative?

I took a deep breath before I responded to my former employee.  Then I typed, "Don't worry, the universe willing, you'll get here too."











15 comments:

  1. Well put ya old gray hair. LOL Now get your walker and continue kicking that millennial butt!

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  2. I'll allow this since you are old too.

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  3. From someone EVEN older; don't let the b......get you down. It's true I think that ageism is one of the remaining acceptable isms around. I cringe when I see a headline like (real story) Grannies foil robber in grocery store. That's a double ism: I am never seen a headline Grandpas foil robber. End of rant. From my perch in life, you certainly don't fit the description!

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    1. That's true, I see stories describing women as grandmas when it has no relevance to the story but never men as grandpas unless it's a story about their grandchildren.

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  4. I've contacted newspapers asking them to stop using "elderly" to describe someone instead of simply stating an age (if that's even relevant). Readers of this blog, you remember newspapers, don't you? lol

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    1. I remember them. I used to love going for a long run and then lying around reading the Sunday paper.

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    2. And you used "lying" correctly (instead of "laying")! You must be of a certain age, lol.

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    3. I can't stand when people say "laying around"

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  5. I work with YOUNG people..and they say stuff like that all the time. On more than one occasion When I make the comment that ‘wow you just made me feel old’. They come back and say ‘your not old....your my mom’s age’. Uhhh that doesn't help!!!

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  6. Does this mean we can't celebrate your birthday?

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    1. It's not necessary! I've had lots of them!

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  7. When I turned forty I though I was old. Now, fifteen years later nothing, has really changed. I am still waiting for my age to kick in.

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